Tennis 4 Life — The Struggle to Become Ourselves
After reading David Brooks’ New York Times essay, “A Surprising Route to the Best Life Possible,” I found myself reflecting on my own tennis journey.
Brooks tells the story of Haruki Murakami’s unexpected shift from jazz club owner to novelist and marathon runner — a transformation sparked by a quiet moment of intuition that led to a life of discipline, endurance, and personal evolution.
It made me realize how similar my own path has been.
What began as a simple curiosity — learning how to hit the ball cleanly, how to rally, how to win points — slowly evolved into something much deeper. That quiet, internal pull to improve, to master the game, and to better understand myself through the process has been the real reward.
Brooks’ reflections helped me see that my tennis path has never been just about competition — it’s been about answering a calling, one driven by wonder, shaped by effort, and sustained by a love for the journey itself.
Tennis as Enchantment
Every tennis journey begins with a spark — a moment of enchantment. Maybe it was the thrill of your first clean winner, or the peace of hitting balls alone against the back fence. That moment didn’t just hook you to a sport; it whispered, this could be your path. That’s the kind of moment Brooks describes — not dramatic, but defining.
Struggle Is the Way
We don’t train because it’s comfortable. We train because it calls us toward growth. Tennis asks for your time, your focus, your heart — and it gives back depth, discipline, and resilience. Every tough session, every emotional loss, every comeback is part of the process of becoming who we’re meant to be.
As Brooks puts it, “People choose pain for meaning.” We choose the hard road, not because we’re masochists, but because we believe in what it leads to.
The Court Is a Mirror of Life
Tennis reveals who you are under pressure. It surfaces habits, emotions, blind spots — and invites you to evolve. One moment, you’re squeezing a ball to calm nerves before a serve. The next, you’re re-learning footwork to improve efficiency. And over time, you’re not just building skills — you’re shaping character.
This is the Tennis 4 Life ethos: use the game to grow the person.
From Goals to Identity
Winning matches is nice. Winning championships is great. But those moments — thrilling as they are — are fleeting. The trophy gathers dust, the high fades, and the scoreboard resets. What lasts isn’t the result; it’s who you became in the process.
The deeper transformation happens when tennis becomes part of your identity. When it’s no longer just about chasing outcomes, but about becoming someone who lives the values of the game: discipline, resilience, courage, and presence. As James Clear says, we become what we habitually do. When you train with intention, focus under pressure, and lead with integrity — you’re not just playing tennis. You’re rehearsing who you want to be.
Each practice, each tough match, each setback overcome is not just a step toward your tennis goals — it’s a brick in the foundation of your character. And over time, you realize the pursuit was never about the destination. It was about becoming the kind of person who shows up fully, keeps growing, and plays with purpose — on and off the court.
True Leisure is Meaningful Work
For us, leisure isn’t passive — it’s purposeful. It’s the quiet rhythm of hitting serves on an empty court. The joy of refining a movement pattern until it flows. The deep satisfaction of a hard-fought match, win or lose.
Tennis becomes a moving meditation — a daily ritual that brings structure, clarity, and passion to our lives.
A Quest That Shapes Us
We don’t expect to “arrive.” Like Murakami’s endless marathons, tennis is a lifelong pursuit. We chase better versions of ourselves, knowing we’ll never fully catch them — and that’s the point. The process is the prize. The struggle is the gift.
Tennis 4 Life = Living With Direction
In a world full of drift, tennis gives us direction. It invites us to build habits, seek feedback, stay grounded. It anchors our days and expands our potential. And most of all, it transforms us.
Not just into better players.
But into better people.
If you love tennis enough to sweat for it, suffer for it, and come back again and again — not in spite of the difficulty but because of it — then you’re already living the Tennis 4 Life journey.
Let the court be your teacher. Let the game be your guide. And let the pursuit continue — not toward perfection, but toward the best version of yourself.